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I want a casual hookup, not a relationship

  I am 37, a single mom and am looking to find   someone , but not a boyfriend. After years of slowly losing my mojo and sexual confidence, I am slowly rediscovering my drives and desires and now want to find someone to explore that with. Basically, I want someone to have sex with and not much else. I don’t need or want a father figure for my child, and as nice as it would be to have dinner and a drink, that is really as far as I want things to go. I am looking for a semi-regular hookup with someone I can get to know over time and explore my sexuality, but I am not ready to actually meet someone for the longer term.

How Common Is Casual Sex?

  It really depends on who you ask. Different answers given by different people might include: Sex is fun with no commitment Sex with no intention of childbearing Sex with no intention of marriage Sex with no intention of being monogamous Sex as a one-night stand In other words, casual sex or casual hookups are defined by the subject. The most important thing to understand is that just because sex is casual doesn't mean it is meaningless. It’s just that casual sex means different things to different people. There is no one, universal meaning. People have sex for all kinds of reasons, including: Have Fun Feel Good Feel Less Alone Feel Powerful Recover From A Breakup Assert Their Masculinity or Femininity Live Out A Fantasy Our definition of casual sex is not meaningless sex. We think of it closer to sex for fun between acquaintances who don't take it too seriously.